Castle Coaching: The mind as a castle
The idea you have of a castle will be influenced by your culture. Perhaps you picture a stereotypical one to the United Kingdom*, Germany, or Japan. Or an equivalent like an Incan pyramid.
Irrespective of your mental image, societies throughout history have had to evolve strategies to attack, and also needed a place of safety to defend from. The castle represents that. The extended metaphor I’m going to discuss is of your mind as the castle – your castle.
To navigate life you need to have a mind that is capable of defence, of repelling attacks – whether they are justified or not is dependent on many things. You also need the balance of being able to attack, or at the least to hold fast without giving in to the will of another person or persons.
One key principle is if you have a weak mind you will not live as fully as you could have. I’m starting with that assumption, because although we all have individual strengths of some kind, every one has some weakness in their mindset, even if it is just relative to their own high standard.
A weak mind can manifest in countless ways. For a start, you should know if your mind is weak and be honest with your self. Even if you have great toughness of mind in multiple areas, any overriding weakness will dictate your course still. So there is always work to be done.
A respectable castle is not built in days but in a lifetime. A mind and all it contains is built continually. Day by day there are new additions. Like the Barcelona basillica, some 130 years after initial construction began, work is ongoing. Of course we do not live that long (yet?!) but you understand the idea.
While there are always new additions and alterations to be made, there are also elements to forget. There are dropped ideas that are no longer useful and we adopt new ways of thinking as we go, just as Lao Tzu wrote several thousands of years ago, an idea extended by Bruce Lee in that we should be our own experimental researcher, examining life and continuing only with the parts that serve us well.
Our brains are capable of brilliance.
They are also capable of delivering our doom. Little reference is made to our thinking power as we grow up. But the brain is not unlike a wild animal that we need to learn how to break in for optimal results. The human brain has breath taking potential, and as we mature we have to learn to calibrate our knowledge and experiences in line with the reality as we know it, which is defined in the concrete world by immutable laws of physics: and those have to co-exist with our more fluid imagination and creativity and of course our emotions.
Given the computing power within our bodies it’s no wonder we are one of the slowest animals to reach maturity.
There’s so much to learn within the complexities of our society the mind is like an unpredictable kicking wild horse that we can:
a) simply tolerate and learn to live with
b) we manage to learn how it works, calm it, feed it logical inputs, meta-sugar lumps, and we can make it work for us to the best of our potential.
There is at least one 30 day money-back guaranteed major obstacle to allowing a maximal operating threshold to be reached: our ill defined egos. To make this all clearer without tangential roadblocks; consider the ego that is not grounded in reality or reason; which prevents attacks on you, the owner, from being made, as in; criticism or realities you do not want to hear about that are treated as pathogenic, to be ‘cured’ with a vaccine of denial. More on this later.
Through the process of life coaching sessions the aim is to guide clients to create a better, tougher castle launching them into confidence and self acceptance, foundational elements of personal success.
The first series of posts will be extending the idea of the castle as mind and going deeper into the metaphor with practical illustrations. There will be no fluffy, empty, softly-softly useless psychology, or marketing of self help cure-all-fixes, or fauxspirational nonsense.
*I’m aware that being British, a castle has historic links and association to royalty. References that are made that share similarities to royalty are merely to help enhance the metaphor, the process of fortifying the mind. The ideology of royalty in terms of rule has historically rarely been a good one given that it is not a meritocracy in any way, but a blood line inheritance.