Architect of Your Success
Continuing the castle as mind metaphor and boundaries, whatever vision you have of your meta-castle, and I fully encourage you to envision it, I will keep using some terms that relate to a typical Scottish castle for illustrative purposes.
Firstly, you need to have a solid foundation to build strength. You also have zero choice in the foundation. Because being alive is that foundation – your body and everything in it.
What gets added to that foundation is not your choice to begin with. Other people are plotting the general direction, where the stones for the walls go, the quality of the materials, their opinions cementing them in place and so on.
There will also be secret tunnels and pathways yet to reach the conscious, therefore still unknown, for good or bad, such as experiences that you are not yet capable of utilising or understanding because they lacked context when you had them.*
Your experiences are influencing the build too, every day is. Without really knowing it, as we grow up and learn, there’s a ghost architect busy working on the castle, adding to the construction day by day. The library of knowledge expanded rapidly at first given the exposure to novel stimuli when younger.
The mind is a place where we can figure out what relation things have with each other, if any. Categorisation forms with finer and finer search results.
Our neurons actually reach a finite number typically around our early 20s, and the architects role is to then adjust the file storage and design in order to help us take in new knowledge.
Emotional experiences are leaving their mark too.
I will note here, there’s an unwritten castle law: Every one gets a dungeon. There’s dark matter that we are not ready or not capable of dealing with in there. Cleverly, the mind stashes some memories in there, like a black box for later recovery. It’s a necessary self protective mechanism so we can continue to live with as little disturbance as possible to our relative equilibrium but you will need to face your demons at some stage if you want to live as fully as possible, free from neuroses, anxieties, false beliefs, self hate and any other thought process that does not serve you well.
I don’t want to be prescriptive of your castle construction but low castles are not ideal, and in fact how you pictured your castle initially can reveal quite a lot about your psychology and perception of self. It’s worth investigating, and I’ll go into more depth on this very topic at a later stage.
As an example, a castle that reaches into the sky and provides a view of our surroundings is suggestive of a curious mind, while one that towers into the sky above the clouds can reveal elements of grandiosity and egotism.
Regardless of your castle architecture, with perspective and outlook we gain powerful insights. More stories are added in time. Our views shift and we become capable of reaching new heights and observations.
Only with maturity can we have the expertise to build higher, or more complex and technical structures.
Life coaching is really about having a word with the architect (you) to understand the castles history, how it operates, what functionality it has, and what problems there are. From there a mission can be formulated to improve the way your mind works, to find personalised ways of making things effective and productive for you and your kingdom/queendom.
*If the mention of the subconscious sounds like woo woo piffle and nonsense, I strongly advise you to at least read a little into some basics on that theme. Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung paved the way and many more have expanded on it. There are detractors that dismiss the subconscious without further consideration. There’s irrefutable evidence that our brains operate on the conscious and subconscious levels. It’s not something to be feared, but understood.