Have You Been Set Up to be A Narcissists Servant?

Identifying Emotional Abuse and PTSD There is a lot of discussion about narcissism, gas lighting and emotional abuse in recent times which is fantastic as these topics really need more airtime while also saddening in that they are so common.Check out the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) studies for the damaging effects and how to preventContinue reading “Have You Been Set Up to be A Narcissists Servant?”

Stress Less

Breathe More Have you ever felt stressed? If you’re alive (a prerequisite to reading words) then I’m going to assume yes. And therefore you’ve definitely been stressed before. In fact, the word itself is a highly useful tool for people because it allows us to define what stress is and what stress isn’t, so weContinue reading “Stress Less”

Texting is a Bad Communication Option

Society in Decline Text messaging via mobile has been available to the masses since 1993 when Nokia made it a feature of their phones: enter T9 and QWERTY and stuff like this 🙂 😀 . Texting has broken away from messages sent through network providers and migrated onto other platforms from Skype, Facebook, LinkedIn toContinue reading “Texting is a Bad Communication Option”

Be Less Available

It’s Your Time, Your Choice Available. Online. Away. Busy. Irrelevant. Do you worry about an email you haven’t responded to? Or a text that is supposedly ‘begging’ for a reply? Following on from covering tech addiction, the next logical step is to look at our availability. If you’re available all the time, you’ve lost yourContinue reading “Be Less Available”

Influence and Control

Self Mastery Suffering arises from trying to control the uncontrollable – Epictetus And he should know, having been a slave.He was Turkish born and latterly known as one of the most famous Stoic Greek philosophers, living to a grand old age, from around 050AD to 135AD. Given the current Covid situation the idea of controlContinue reading “Influence and Control”

Evaluating Family and Friends

Cut Them Off? Who’s allowed in your castle? There are plenty of examples from nature that show not just an inclination, but rejuvenation and change as a way of life. Snakes change skin when they shed, which is really a shedding of the old upper surface skin layer. Spiders also malt, that’s why you findContinue reading “Evaluating Family and Friends”

Life Coaching: Motivation Is a Visitor

A river flows at different speeds Are you feeling motivated?* And check with your self: what does the word motivated mean to you? The thing with motivation is that it comes and goes, regardless of what you need it for.Don’t let people fool you into believing that they’re bad at maths and 110% super motivatedContinue reading “Life Coaching: Motivation Is a Visitor”

The Castle Coaching Mindset: Castle as a Metaphor PART 8

Personal Boundaries and Self Worth Reading Part 1 , Part 2 , Part 3 , Part 4, Part 5, Part 6 and Part 7 is useful to understand the overall idea An utterly crucial aspect of your mindset and life satisfaction is your regulation of personal boundaries. I’ve covered this already, but it is such a crucialContinue reading “The Castle Coaching Mindset: Castle as a Metaphor PART 8”

The Castle Coaching Mindset: Castle as a Metaphor PART 4

Architect of Your Success Reading Part 1 , Part 2 and Part 3 is useful to understand the overall idea Continuing the castle as mind metaphor and boundaries, whatever vision you have of your meta-castle, and I fully encourage you to envision it, I will keep using some terms that relate to a typical ScottishContinue reading “The Castle Coaching Mindset: Castle as a Metaphor PART 4”

The Castle Coaching Mindset: Castle as a Metaphor PART 3

Self Serve Reading Part 1 and Part 2 is useful to understand the overall idea Throughout history, stories both fictional and real, are replete with the concept of mastery. How do we achieve it? A recurrent theme is of people given powers that they are not capable of handling. Or of learning a secret theyContinue reading “The Castle Coaching Mindset: Castle as a Metaphor PART 3”